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Here we explore the pros and cons of whether to invite children to the wedding, and ideas to keep them occupied. If including children, we have tips to reduce costs with the reception site or caterer, and the etiquette of who gets wedding invitations, and how old they need to be to get their own invitations.
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Many couples have a dilemma when it comes to deciding whether children will be invited to the wedding reception or not. If the couple getting married have children, they tend to include their friend’s children as well. Couples with no children often choose to not include children in their wedding. If your wedding theme is focused on family, and friends, a couple is more likely to invite children than a couple whose wedding is in a grand, upscale setting. Here are some things to consider:
- When couples choose to invite children to a wedding reception it helps to know that most facilities have a children’s menu that is much lower in price than the adults menu.
- When you are charged per person for the alcohol bar service, tell your contact person at your reception site how many children you have invited and ask to have them subtracted from the guest count for the bar service charge.
If a lot of young children are invited, couple’s often hire someone to keep them occupied with activities—including a table with activities especially for the kids. If there is adequate outdoor space, this person can also take them outside for various games.
Sometimes couples choose to invite only those 16 years of age and over—but end up with problems because a cousin who isn’t 16 might be excluded. Sometimes these children are under 16 yrs of age, but are junior bridesmaids or even flower girl. It can be a problem if they attend and their siblings aren’t invited. My suggestion is that you invite those that you feel should be invited, regardless of their age. If you make a rule, use it as a guideline.
When you are figuring out invitations, the bridal party members should each get their own invitation. Otherwise, one invitation is sent to each address and the names you put on the invitation are the people you are inviting. Etiquette demands that anyone 16 years of age or older receive their own wedding invitation.
Some couples choose to have no children at their wedding reception. This is an acceptable option as well. Have fun with your lists!